Monthly Archive for July, 2007

Things I miss from Turkey

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We are back in Northridge, and I have been up since 2 am (after getting nearly 7 hours of sleep). It is good to be home and I am so proud of Layla for how well she did considering how brutal the nearly 20 hour travel back could be on a 23 month old.

Here are some things I already miss from Turkey (in no particular order):

  • The Hammam. Though I only did the Turkish bath once, it was an awesome experience.
  • The Shave. Shaving is usually a chore for me (which is why I don’t shave as often as I should). But getting shaved by another while getting a facial massage made me want to get a frequent participation card.
  • The Aegean. Swimming in the warm (but choppy) waters of the Aegean was fantastic. I don’t really swim in the Pacific Ocean in Southern California because of how cold the water is, so it was nice to swim in salty water.
  • Friends and partners. Rhoda, Layla, and I had a great time spending time and sharing life for nearly two weeks with our hosts. Their outlook on life, growing faith in God, hospitality, and perseverance in ministry served us and was the highlight of our trip
  • Spa Treatment. We spent some time in retreat (or vacation) at a beach resort, where we spent time at the pool(s), the beach, and the spas.
  • Rhythm of life. PDAs will never survive in Turkey, where the rhythm of life values relationships over getting things done.
  • Layla and baby. It was fun to see Layla be infatuated with our friends’ little baby boy who is just a few weeks old.
  • Cross-Culturalism. I think I just made up that term, but there is something good for my soul to be in a cross-cultural context, where I can see the world and life from perspectives outside of my familiarity. These experiences have always served to shape me and give me much needed perspective and correction.
  • Being Home. I don’t know how to explain this one. For two weeks, I was in a context that matched with my culture. The foods, the phrases, the idioms, and the worldviews (both the good and the bad), matched my soul.

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Aliens among us, Part IV: Loving Others

The Spanglish Gringo has an excellent post outlining some Biblical theology on loving those among us. He also writes some thoughts on some of the more (politically) conservative theology that upholds Romans 13’s call to submit to the laws of the land as the only voice in the immigration debate.

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Understanding MySpace

The primary engine of MySpace’s stupendous growth isn’t the Internet, but the fathomless narcissism of the young.

— Caitlin Flanagan, critic for “The Atlantic Monthly” in the July/August 2007 issue, critiquing Generation MySpace by Candice M Kelsey.

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Leadership Insight 4: Lead within your context

An article in a recent issue of “The Economist” looked at the rising influence of American mayors. The article notes how mayors across the country are doing more of the “Think Globally, Act Locally” vision. At a gathering in Los Angeles last month, they debated “pointless resolutions, including one to eliminate nuclear, biological and chemical warfare throughout the world.”

Though these resolutions are pointless, the mayors are bringing change that has national significance. When the federal government passed over the Kyoto treaty, more than 500 mayors signed on to reduce greenhouse-gas emissions in their cities by 7%. And in recent times, Mayor Bloomberg (of New York City) has organized an alliance of over 200 mayors to increase gun-control.

Whereas climate control and gun-control are generally thought of as national (or even international) issues, these mayors have decided to lead by example in their own communities. In many contexts, the leader has the choice of either blaming and criticizing his or her leaders and cry that he or she is not to blame for the lack of movement, or the leader can lead by example within his or her context.

The mayors that are committed to curb greenhouse-gas emissions or work on gun-control are looking to lead their vision within their context. They are looking to bring change within the circle that they can bring change. A leader must lead within his or her context. Too many leaders approach leadership with their hands tied behind their backs. They cry, “Because I am not ‘more powerful’ I cannot bring the change that I want to see happen.” Leadership begins in our circle of influence.

In my ministry context, I have to remind myself that my context is the most important place for me to lead. My leadership is not hijacked by “the powers that be.” I have an opportunity to influence and lead well within my context, and complaining of the direction of our ministry or organization usually reveals to me that I have forgotten the context into which God has called me.

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You know you’re an American when… (Part 2)

According to my StatCounter, the most popular way people come to this blog is by searching for “You know you’re an American when…” I wrote a post in November 2006 commenting on the uniqueness of Americans. I figure, I should expand that post and I would love for you to add to this list. So this means, you have to comment.

You know you’re an American when…

Going out for a walk means getting the mail. (Most people around the world do not rely on cars as their mode of transportation. Even Canadians—Canada is geographically bigger than the US—drive 35 percent less than Americans drive).

Speaking a second language means you’re an immigrant. (In most countries, children are encouraged to learn more than one or two languages. The English-only movement is a silly movement that will not work to preserve American culture, but actually limit our educational potentials).

You are disappointed if you have the same cuisine back-to-back. (Most peoples around the world cannot imagine having the freedom to choose between more than one cuisine in the same geographical location).

You think that there are political solutions to spiritual problems. (Maybe there is something unique about our political system that empowers churches and Christians to ally with certain politicians and political parties, but the majority of the world thinks it odd).

Your turn…

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Only five times a day?

Being in a Muslim context, we hear the call to prayer five times a day. As the declaration reverberates through the loud speakers throughout the city, Layla innocently asks, “What is that?” The call to prayer urges all Muslims to stop what they are doing and begin preparations to pray.

The first one is at dawn, which after the first day, is something we learn to sleep through. Praying toward Mecca five times a day is one of the five pillars of Islam, called the Salah. Muslims are commanded to enter into a cleaning ritual and pray certain prescribed prayers.

I often hear people who express admiration for the devout Muslims who “religiously” follow the various tenets of Islam, and particularly their dedication toward prayer. Personally, I find it a bit lacking. Islam commands praying only five times a day? Continue reading ‘Only five times a day?’

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“I think you’re Turkish”

I probably hear that statement more than anything else here. Whenever I meet a Turkish person, they wonder why I cannot speak the language. When my White American host explains (in Turkish) that I am American, they are confused. How is it that the Turkish looking guy can’t speak Turkish, but the American looking guy is fluent?

Over the course of the conversation, we explain that my grandfather was born in a city in the eastern part of modern Turkey, and the person slaps his (usually a he) hands together and declares, “I knew you were Turkish!”

Well… not really. But they soon lecture me that it is shameful that I have forgotten my mother tongue.

People often ask me how I feel about visiting Turkey. What is it like for an Armenian person to talk, joke, interact and spend time with Turks? Our peoples are historical enemies, so how is it that I can visit the land of the Turks? And since so many people think I look Turkish, am I offended?

The short answer to that last question is, “not at all!” While we may be ethnically and religiously different, culturally we are more similar than I realized. I feel joy playing tavle (backgammon) or sipping black tea with the people I meet.

Yes, there were terrible and dark moments in our history that have created a rift that continue until today. As a follower of Jesus, I am learning how to walk in forgiveness and value the shalom (or peace) in friendships and relationships. I know that many Armenians (and Turks) would want nothing to do with the other, but as I am in relationship with the Turks, I see the joy of being in relationship with Turks rather than the need to stay away.

In the Letter to the Romans, Paul speaks of returning evil with good. The best response to evil is not vengeance (for that belongs to the Lord), but forgiveness and good. The power of good, forgiveness and peace will do much more for reconciliation and true justice than revenge and vengeance.

The Bible gives a radical teaching on loving our enemies. This is not just a proverb uttered by Jesus, but it is the story of God and God’s people, who would love those who offend, insult, and persecute. Honestly, I will never learn the lesson of loving my enemies within the American (or even Western) Church context. The teaching is too theoretical. Very few people (especially those of the majority culture and those of majority culture type churches) know what it means to harbor deep hatred and bitterness toward another.

The Lord has brought me to Turkey to teach me the deeper essence of loving those whom my people around me tell me are unlovable. I recently heard the account of St. Patrick who intentionally chose to love his enemies. The Lord sent him to his former captors to love them and influence them toward good when they meant to influence him toward evil. The Lord gave Joseph eyes to love his brothers and return evil for good. And the Lord has brought me to Turkey to soften my heart and love those who some say should never be loved.

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Thank you Mr. Ahlering

I guess Andrew Ahlering had the same idea about firing Rocky Delgadillo.

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Walking where St. Paul walked

Theater

We arrived in the ancient city of Ephesus (or Efes in Turkish) at 9am this morning. We fought the scorching sun and the crowds as we strolled down the ruins of this very ancient city. This city was once a bustling capital city, but is now simply a museum that is a mere shadow of its greatness.

This city used to house worship temples for the goddess Artemis and the Emperor Domitian, and a small but growing Christian community. When Paul visited Ephesus, he raised up a small group of disciples that would eventually challenge the profitability of the god making industry. In fear of losing further business, they rioted.

Thousands of people filled the theater where for two hours they shouted praise to Artemis, while some men dragged Paul’s companions (presumably to hurt them).

We sat in this theater that probably held up to 30,000 people, just trying to imagine thousands of voices persecuting the young church in the city. As an American Christian, there are not many opportunities for religious pilgrimages. In fact, pilgrimages are not part of my tradition’s experience. The trip to Efes was a pilgrimage. The Christian community in this city was well established by 100 CE. We have several letters written to the believers, and St. John who penned Revelation in exile on the island of Patmos probably wrote the highly symbolic book with a picture of the Roman Empire in Ephesus.

This community struggled and persevered in light of a pluralistic culture. The community turned hostile against the Christians not because Christians believed in a different God, but because they believed that their God was superior and the only God.

We are living in a very pluralistic culture and have much to learn from this early church. They were not simply advocating a better way of life, but were advocating a road that would stand in judgment against all the other roads of life.

As we were walking through the ruins, Rhoda wondered aloud, “Eddy, wouldn’t it be cool if thousands of years from now, people walk through the ruins of Northridge, giving thanks to Eddy’s ministry and preaching in the Satellite Student Union?” Yes, that would be cool… May our community at CSUN learn and walk with conviction like Paul and his companions and the church in Ephesus.

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Leadership Insight 3: Character Counts

In recent weeks, I was saddened by the news that the mayor of my city, Antonio Villaraigosa, admitted that his marriage has come to an end and that he was romantically involved with a local television news reporter. Villaraigosa is not alone. Rudy Giuliani, former New York mayor and one of the front runners for the Republican presidential nomination, broke off his second marriage at a live news conference and then professed his love for his mistress.

These men command influence and lead millions of people, yet their character is lacking. Of course, it wouldn’t be too difficult to list powerful and effective leaders with character flaws. These types of leaders are both inside and outside the Christian world.

When I see someone like Giuliani have a real chance to be our next president, I admit that I wonder whether character counts. The mantra seems to be, “as long as they do the job right, who cares about their character.”

But character does count and should count. In the Letter to the Galatians, Paul mentions that those who belong to Christ live by the fruit of the spirit which is love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, generosity, faithfulness, gentleness, and self control (Galatians 5.22-23). In Christian leadership, our character counts especially since we are leading people toward getting their characters right with God. And business leadership guru Jim Collins has discovered that character tends to strengthen people’s leadership.

If leadership is only about accomplishing tasks, then character may not need to count. If leadership is only about power, then character may not need to count. But if leadership is about building trust and inspiring change, then our character matters.

In my experience, I have discovered that character development ultimately rests on me. In other words, others can suggest improvements to my character, but I am the ultimate gatekeeper of whether I want to be “above reproach” (1 Timothy 3.2). Character development requires discipline and commitment on our part. It requires self-examination, transparency, and humility to allow others to speak truth into our lives.

I admit that I may not necessarily be the model person who values character development. But I do recognize that the leaders I respect the most, tend to be people who are most committed to being “above reproach” leaders. And that inspires me to be committed to character development.

Character does count and must count. It is unfortunate when political leaders can pave a path of leadership that steps aside character development. For anyone who is in leadership, we must follow a better path.

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