Monthly Archive for September, 2007

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More often than not, we do too much because we are afraid of being judged as failures, we do not trust others to do their share, we wish to exclude alternative approaches, or we want to ensure that we remain unchallenged in the driver’s seat.

— Michael Casey, Strangers to the City, page 34.

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Evangelism Tools

There have been some cool evangelism tools that have come to surface in the past couple years. A few of us have been collaborating on a diagram (which incidentally, I just got an email from one of my supervisors saying that someone used it to lead a friend to faith in Idaho) that we’re calling “Reversing Corruption.”

I have a write-up of this diagram which is an adaptation of The Bridge Diagram and the excellent work that James Choung has done with “The Big Story.” Below you’ll find a video of this diagram, and check out the Powerpoint of the diagram as well (produced by Jon Ball).

The write-up, video and powerpoint have gone through a small revision, but this is a pretty good draft of our collaboration.


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Finance Fridays 6: Trust in God

Scripture is full of promises that God provides. Whether it is the story of the feeding of the 5000, or a straight word from Jesus in Matthew 6, our God provides for our needs. This past summer, I did some work out of Proverbs and was struck again that God reveals himself as one who provides and wants to provide for our needs.

Saying God is the great provider means that we can put our trust in him. We do not need to put our trust in our possessions, in our cars, in our houses, or in our relationships. It takes great risk to put trust in the “invisible” God. It takes courage to believe that we can live on less (because we are tithing or living simpler) and that God still has our back.

Theoretically, I believe. I believe that God is more trustworthy than anything else. I believe that God has my back. I believe that I do not have to worry. Here’s my struggle though: I don’t believe that God has my back when I put myself into financial trouble. I can trust in God when I do all things right. I don’t know if I trust in God when my sin or poor decisions lead me to financial trouble.

What God has been pressing me is the need for God when I feel like I’m in financial trouble. I need to believe the prayer of Psalm 86.7, “In the day of my trouble I call on you, for you will answer me.”

When I find myself in financial trouble (even if my actions have caused the trouble), I want to believe that I can call on God and he will answer me. Will God forgive me for my poor decision-making when it comes to my finances? Will God rescue me from my mistakes? I’d like to believe that Psalm 86.7 speaks into that and says a resounding, “Yes!”

There may be some seasons where I feel disciplined and wise in how I handle my finances. But there are other seasons where I feel in trouble and full of stress. The challenge during those seasons of stress and trouble is to still trust God for my finances and also whatever correction God may have—whether it be to stretch my giving or cut my expenses.

It’s one thing to say, “Lord, I am going to give this money away and I need to trust that you provide for my needs.” And it’s another thing to say, “Lord, I have mismanaged my money and I need you to rescue me and provide for my needs.” It’s easier for me to believe God’s love and God’s provisions with the former statement but not the latter one.

But the good news is that God does deliver us from our troubles—whether they were caused by us or by others. We need to trust God regardless of where we are and how we got there. Scripture is full of promises that God cares for all of our needs. Praise be to God!

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What did this woman eat?

I wouldn’t wish this on any woman (especially wouldn’t want this on my wife)…

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Leadership Insight 14: Perseverance

If there is one leadership lesson that has shaped my character and my outlook on leadership, it’s the concept of perseverance. One website defines it as a virtue, adding that it is the steadfast pursuit of an aim. I see perseverance as staying the course when all other data may suggest the situation is either a failure or impossible.

Perseverance requires patience, a discipline of waiting, and to believe in a future that those around us may not believe. I find that perseverance is often a theoretically admirable trait, but in the moment, we understand why we would not want to persevere in light of suffering or failure.

Moses is a Biblical leader who persevered in difficult moments. I imagine that leading the Israelites from Egypt and into the desert was a difficult feat. The more than a million men, women and children who followed him may not have had the entire vision of life beyond Egypt. All they had known was slavery in Egypt. And the trek to leave Egypt was dangerous, with the Egyptian army racing to destroy them as a nation.

The Israelites were stuck between the Red Sea and Pharaoh’s army. The consensus was, “Was it because there were no graves in Egypt that you have taken us away to die in the wilderness?” (Exodus 14.11) Moses could have easily believed that his leadership and vision had failed. He had indeed led the Israelites to be slaughtered and destroyed. He may have misheard God and the situation did not present itself as “from God.”

But rather than turn back and change course, Moses persevered in his calling as a leader and in leading the Israelites to safety. He did not shrink from the vision nor the calling, despite the suffering and the failure before him.

One of the struggles I have with persevering is that there is no way of knowing how long we have to persevere before we see the things for which we want to believe God. So persevering doesn’t operate within a time-frame. Instead, it has to be a part of our character, to persevere and not shrink back when the going gets tough.

I find that God has taken me through seasons of suffering where I have had to struggle whether I would persevere or call it quits. In my leadership in ministry, there have been seasons of great joy and seasons where I have wondered why I do what I do. I have raised doubts about my passions, my skills, and my calling.

Currently, I am enjoying this season of ministry and it is great to see fruit emerge from our labor. But I had a realization the other day that I would have never seen God’s work had I not persevered during some difficult seasons of the ministry. Perseverance has built up my character, it has strengthened my calling, and it has made this season of ministry even sweeter.

The trials of ministry and the trials of leadership have forced me to believe God during the times of blessing and the times of want. And as I see God do a new thing in my life and the life of our ministry, I am grateful to have persevered.

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A snob or connoisseur, you be the judge

About a year ago, I came across an article in an in-flight magazine about roasting my own coffee. Rather than buying already roasted coffee, I could purchase green beans (which are cheaper), and roast the coffee at home. This would save me money but it would allow me to enjoy an even fresher cup of coffee.

I was inspired. The only problem was, I wasn’t motivated to research on how to get started. Thanks to my friend Josh, I got connected to Sweet Marias, a coffee roaster (local to him) in the Bay Area that sells green beans and has excellent resources and instructions to roast your own coffee at home.

The method is a lot simpler and cheaper than I ever anticipated. With a $10 popcorn popper (purchased at my local Walgreens), I roasted my first batch of coffee and drank one of the freshest cups of coffee ever.

As you know from weeks ago, I am a huge lover of Peets Coffee. But even Mr. Peets himself (God rest his soul) would be proud of my new endeavors. I was so excited for this cup of coffee, that I made two cups before getting started. One cup had Peets coffee and the other had home-roasted Eddy Coffee. I had Rhoda taste the cups and compare. She was overwhelmingly satisfied by Eddy Coffee. Rhoda, a non-coffee drinker, said to me, “Eddy, this makes me want to drink more coffee. Too bad I’m pregnant!” (That brought tears to my eyes)

I doubt that my search for the perfect cup of coffee is over. But I’m glad to be on that journey and to have come to a new place of enjoyment. My next aim: grow my own coffee bean tree!

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Shocking the doctor

Rhoda went in to her regular pregnancy check-up today (she is exactly halfway through her pregnancy) and everything is going well so far. One of the options she is given at this stage is to do the  alpha-fetoprotein screening (AFP). The screening will alert the parents to be and the doctors if there are risks for birth defects such as spina bifida and Down syndrome.

The reason this screening is common at this stage is that if this screening (and subsequent tests) reveal a high likelyhood for these defects, the parents can opt to “safely” abort.

This screening is by no means 100% accurate (meaning it can produce false-negatives and false-positives). But that’s not the reason why Rhoda has opted out of of this screening. The reason she has opted out of the test is that the conclusion of the test will not affect the outcome of our decision to follow through with this pregnancy.

The nurse and the doctor were shocked by her waiving the test (she had to sign a waiver declaring her intent to skip out of the screening). They asked her multiple times if she was sure she wants to do that. We are both sure (at two different appointments).

Her doctor—who happens to be an immigrant to the US—turned to Rhoda after her appointment and told her, assuredly, “I agree with your theory—this test is a whole bunch of American B***S***!”

I’m not sure it’s just American BS. Apart from the fact that this test is not very accurate, people who are opting to abort based on the results of this test are indirectly placing a higher value on the worth of life on the “perfectly, healthy child.” This child in my wife’s womb is alive, breathing, kicking and reacting. In a few weeks, this child can theoretically live outside the womb.

We are prepared to care for our little one. We cannot wait to meet him or her. Maybe there is some value for administering and/or opting into the screening. But I’m glad my wife shocked her doctors this afternoon!

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Finance Fridays 5: Budgeting

For most people, drafting a budget is not a fun thing to do. Most people are probably not wired (or disciplined) to draft a budget and stick to it. Many people may give lip service to budgeting, but frankly, it’s not easy to put together a budget and then to actually have to stick to it.

But a budget can be a very helpful and (if I may be so bold) a faithful discipline. Budgets will reveal a picture of how we intend to use our money. A budget will help us prioritize our giving and our expenses. It will allow us to see what we value and how we want our money to be spent.

I often muse that someone’s checking account may be one of the best indicators of his or her faith and convictions. When I teach seminars to graduating seniors, I try to communicate that a budget will aid them in being faithful to the things that God calls them.

Here are some tips that I have found helpful in developing my family’s budget:

  • Begin with the realistic. To see a budget as a limiting factor on how we spend our money will make it a tough road of sticking to the budget. We need to begin by being realistic with our numbers. I once advised someone whose entertainment expense was well over $500 a month. She was in deep debt and needed some help. Rather than begin with cutting and putting herself in high discipline, I asked her to simply pick the numbers that are realistic and comfortable. Having said that, the first step for her was to stick to her budget. Once she did that, it would be easier to then begin looking at ways to cut her expenses.
  • Revisit regularly. If they budget, most people may never revisit their budget, which essentially makes the budget useless. Revisiting a budget every month (at the beginning of a budgeting process) and then every quarter will help you track your expenses.
  • Budget everything. As I mentioned two weeks ago, budget annual expenses on a monthly level. Don’t be stuck with higher expenses in December because you didn’t budget for Christmas gifts.
  • Track expenses. The only way to really know how the budgeting is going is to track expenses. I find that a software program (like Quicken of MS Money) can be extremely helpful. It is well worth the cost of the program!
  • Seek accountability. Money seems to be one of the least talked about topics in most Christian relationships, yet so much of our faith and convictions revolve around it. Get input for your budget and ask others to keep you accountable.

I have several budgeting resources that I’d be glad to share with you. Drop me an email and I’ll send you various resources on budgeting well.

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3 on 3 Tournament

(L-R Terrell, me and Anthony. Terrell was the visionary behind the tournament. He and Anthony served as referees)

We did it. InterVarsity Matador Christian Fellowship hosted its first ever 3 on 3 Basketball Tournament. We had nine teams sign up, with the team called “The 3 Bs” winning 75% of the pot.

It was great to watch 27 men (25 of whom are not involved with InterVarsity) battle it out on the courts. One of our seniors, Terrell, came up with the idea, and I credit him with doing most of the hardwork of getting the word out. (There were posters all over the dorms)

Renting the court: $30
Printing the flyers: $20
Seeing students step up and run the tournament: Priceless

IVMCF is by no means the authority on basketball tournaments. But tonight, I saw contextualized ministry. We have a lot to learn on how to engage the campus, and how to use basketball tournaments toward that end. I celebrate the shifting of our community’s culture, where students are taking more initiative in engaging the campus.

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Leadership Insight 13: Giving of Self

Like many other high school ‘over-achievers’  I held many  “leadership” positions in the various organizations. I was editor for the yearbook and newspaper, one of the leaders of the Christian club, and also of my church youth group.

Most of these leadership positions were “clock-in, clock-out” kind of jobs. I did what I had to do in the particular role, but for the most part, these roles just kept me busy and they looked really good on my college applications (at least I thought so).

But for one of these roles–News editor for the award-winning newspaper–I gave way more of myself. I skipped out on work (usually during the afternoons), stayed up late at night, got to school early, and spent my lunch and recess breaks in the news room.

We had editorial meetings on a weekly basis, and it was one of the hardest things I had done up to that time of my life. I know I was giving above and beyond the call of the job.

One of the key insights in the past couple years for me has been that the call of leadership requires the giving of myself beyond the minimum requirements of the tasks of leadership. As I grow older and my family life becomes more complex (marriage, family), leadership within certain bounds is somewhat attractive. It is attractive because I can have clear boundaries between work and personal life.

But leadership confined within a job description can lose its authenticity and authority. Leadership is not just a hat I wear at certain times of the day or week, but it is what God has called me to be (at the very least, in this season of life). I’m a leader when I’m upfront preaching, or hanging out with students. I’m a leader both during the “work-week” and on my days off.

If we are to truly give ourselves in leadership, we have to pay attention to:

  • What are the things that rejuvenate us? How are we going to find the time to fill the tank that will inevitably go empty if we give ourselves in such a way?
  • What kind of clarity of expectations do we need to have with family or friends?
  • How are we growing in our call, outside of our particular job description?

When I give of myself, it can be costly as I find my energy drained faster and often, my time may not feel my own. But what I love about giving of myself is that the more I give, the more I am convinced of my calling, my choices, and my mission. The more I give of myself in my leadership, the closer I feel to God, and the more joy I have for myelf and my family within my community.

As I continue to grow in my leadership, I am shifting from seeing leadership reduced to a job description, to seeing it as a calling on my life, within a particular context.

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