Monthly Archive for November, 2007

My civic duties

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Last Monday night, I found out that I had to report to court on Tuesday morning for Jury Duty. I have always wanted to be selected, and you would think that I would have been glad to go. But not this time. Maybe there is never a good time to do my civic duties, but when I’m the primary care-giver to my daughter, it is an inconvenience. (The court only gives postponements not excuses for child care issues)

After our orientation, we went to the courtroom where the Judge welcomed us and explained the importance of our process. She was, surprisingly, inspirational. She excused us early and asked us to return the following day for the jury selection process. But before she excused the 70-some jurors, she asked to talk to about 30 of us individually.

When I was called into the court, she asked me whether I could afford to take time off work to do a 12 day trial. I explained the nature of my work (very flexible hours with most of my “work” being in the evenings), so I suppose it could work. However, I did explain to her that my personal life made it more difficult to serve. I explained to her that I can’t take a postponement since baby #2 will be here in the next three months.

She said to me, “I am concerned of your child-care issues. I am going to grant you an excuse. However, the next time you are summoned, I expect you to serve.” She thanked me for my services for the day and asked that I not talk to anyone as I leave the court. I got credit for serving (which means I don’t have to serve for the next 12 months). I was expecting bureaucracy at its worst, and I discovered a cordial and efficient system of governance.  I think I would enjoy serving when I’m called upon again–as long as it doesn’t interfere with my personal and work life :)

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Leadership Insight 19: Rhythm of Work

I came across an article in “Fortune” about hotelier Ian Schrager (”Fortune”, November 26, 2007, Page 44). As chairman and CEO of his own company in the hotel industry, he is a busy man. “Fortune” interviewed him regarding how his work habits that I thought were helpful and insightful.

First, he manages accesses of communication. Only a few people “at the highest levels” have his BlackBerry address. He said that he changes his address about once a year because over the course of time, that exclusivity gets eroded. There is some wisdom in not allowing everyone to have access to us all the time. In an age where it is easy to get connected and be found in multiple ways, there is some wisdom to limit access. First, it increases the value when we do give access to certain people and second, it allows us to have a better way of controlling how we use our time. Steven Covey in his book Seven Habits of Highly Effective People contrasts the important with the urgent. Every form of communication feels urgent to me all the time, and I wonder if there is some wisdom in learning how to manage the various ways people can get in touch with us. For example, I have email, AIM, Facebook, cell-phone, and a house-line. Is there a way to use these mediums in a way that would make me more effective? Am I making it more difficult to have a rhythm of work and life to prioritize the important?

Second, he only calls meetings that are necessary. In other words, people are not meeting for the sake of meetings. As a leader who attends meetings and often has to run meetings, this is an important insight for me. I don’t want to waste anyone’s time and I want to make sure to run excellent meetings where people leave having been blessed by those meetings.

Third, Schrager values being on the field and not at his desk. He said, “I fight not to get absorbed by administrative detail and turn into a desk jockey.” Though this principle isn’t as relevant for me since I’m “on the field” a lot (I’m even considered “field staff” by the national organization), I do have plenty of administrative details at hand. What I have been trying to do is to do most of my work on campus rather than at home. Whether it is responding to email, preparing a Bible Study, planning a meeting, or even meeting with my supervisor, I have done a lot of those things on campus among students. I find that I accomplish more and that my vision and passion remain focused on the campus.

Fourth, he stays relevant with pop culture. This should be a no-brainer for people in ministry, particularly among youth. He is a pop-culture anthropologist. He doesn’t just get interested in a new fad, but he reflects why is is a phenomenon. He said, “[Fads] are a manifestation of something going on in our culture.” The better anthropologist I am of my culture, the better I can articulate a relevant gospel.

Fifth, he makes lists. Every Sunday, he plans out the coming week and makes a list of all the things that need to get done for the week. He has both a long-term and a short-term list. He even uses different colored pens to indicate the priority of the things that need to get done. I once heard a management coach say that an hour spent planning once a week will save several hours of inefficiency during the week. There is a lot of truth to that. The times when I have planned out my coming week and created to do lists and planned them in, I have found myself most satisfied with my rhythm of rest and work.

Finally, Schrager values vacations. In other words rest is important, not to just veg out, but he finds that rest makes him much more effective at what he does. He has the luxury of taking a vacation every six weeks. I’m not sure I can do that, but I can take a prayer retreat every couple months and vacations a couple times a year. Physiologists tell us that our bodies grow when we rest (sleep). I think it’s true that we often grow when we have space to get away and get perspective on our work, our ministry, our leadership and our personal life.

Schrager drops some helpful insights. They are by no means the final say on staying efficient. I appreciate what this 61 year old leader has learned of management and leadership.

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Over our Thanksgiving holiday weekend, we had a chance to enjoy a new soundtrack in our lives. I’m thinking we can easily release an album with the hit single, “ABC”!


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Finance Friday 14: Measures of a Strong Economy

The media has been painting a gloomy picture of the US economy. There is a credit crunch (people who need credit can’t get credit), a housing slump (people who need to sell their homes can’t), and consumers are holding back in spending their money during the holiday season.

Friday was black Friday—the traditional start of the holiday shopping season. Statistics say that about 25% of retailers’ sales comes in the month before Christmas. Black Friday was dubbed that to indicate that Friday is usually when retailers start seeing their accounts in the black (rather than red).

I’m not an economist nor an expert in capitalism. It seems that the best measures of an economy is how well people spend their money. Shortly after 9/11 President Bush urged Americans to go shopping and spend their money to show the terrorists that they will not break us. It was shortly after 9/11, that car manufacturers began offering 0% interest on their cars as way of enticing buyers. In other words, the more materialistic and consumeristic we are, the stronger our economy.

Scripture speaks clearly against the pursuit of things and materialism in general. Jesus illustrates the futile pursuit of things in Luke 12 with the parable of the rich fool. I’m not sure if most Christians find it disturbing that our society (and us as Christians) are so ingrained in a culture of consumerism and materialism. We will soon the American church utter trite slogans that “Jesus is the reason for the season” yet there will be a mismatch between the words out of our mouth and our actions.

I’ve mentioned in previous posts that we need to have limited budgets on how to spend our money during this holiday season and it seems that it would be better to have new statistics to measure the strength of our economy. How about if we base our economic strength on the saving rate of our consumers? How about if the strength of our economy was measured not by how much people spend but how much they didn’t spend? What if we measured our economic strength by how much people give away? What if generosity, rather than consumerism were the measure of an economy?

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Thanksgivings

“Eddy, you need a bigger house!” Kaitlyn told me in response to our dinner guests. Maybe she’s right.

On Monday, we hosted a Thanksgiving Feast for our community of students. Over 50 people packed into our home for food and fun. Because it was potluck style, students brought most everything except the meat. I cooked up two 18 pound turkeys and a slab of ham. Since our living room is not big enough for the army of people we expected, we also cleared out the garage and set up a few chairs to spread the crowd all over the house.

Thanksgiving 2

Thanksgiving 1

I’m thankful to God for the ways he has formed our community this fall. Students are enjoying the community they are building and the friendships that I imagine will last a lifetime. The feast on Monday is a healthy and necessary picture of how God is blessing CSUN and Pierce College students in community. In addition to many of the regulars, a handful of new students joined us for the day. I’m encouraged that students feel comfortable inviting their friends to our house and a Christian event in general.

Apart from the encouragement that comes with the numbers, I am thankful and encouraged to see people enjoying the company of friends. These friendships will be a blessing now and a blessing for years to come. How exciting!

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Leadership Insight 18: On Guard for Life

I recently caught a news story about yet another sex scandal that has rocked a church. Worshipers at Cathedral of the Holy Spirit at Chapel Hill Harvester Church have recently learned that their founding pastor (now 80) was involved in several extra-marital relationships during his tenure. At their height, the church had 10,000 people a week worshiping in Atlanta.

The current pastor, D.E. Paulk, recently learned that his biological father was the founder of the church whom he had known as his uncle. Earl Paulk had been involved in several affairs through the course of his life, and had coerced and manipulated women to believing that salvation would only be found by having sex with him.

It is clear that Earl Paulk has undealt character issues. Yet as a fallen, deceptive and sinful man, he has shepherded a Mega-Church in Atlanta. He is eighty years old and the truth is just coming to the surface. His entire reputation and leadership and legacy will be remembered by his character.

The truth is that our character will influence our legacy. We will be remembered by our character issues. But character is not something that we deal with at one point of our lives, but something we have to address for life. As leaders, we have to be on guard for our entire lives. As a male leader, I especially recognize the power of sexual sin and its seductions. I have to be on guard every day for the ways that various sins will want to influence me.

This recent scandal (and I presume that it won’t be the last of Christian leaders who fall to sexual temptation) is a wake-up call to be on guard for life. Anyone who thinks that he or she is immune to such temptations is a fool. We are all capable of sin. We need the humility to pay attention to the ways we are susceptible to sin and the discipline to keep watch.

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Intercession and Calling, Part VI: Conclusions

(Part I, Part II, Part III, Part IV, Part V) (The article in its entirety is found in the Resources section)

BEST PRACTICES

As I mentioned in the footnote above, there are many definitions for intercession and this paper is by no means a final or complete word on the subject. My hope through this paper is to articulate and clarify how intercession can inform our calling in ministry and how the lack of intercession can defeat us.

Here are some practical ways that have aided my intercession:

  • Read the Bible: The more I read the Bible, the more I know the character and heart of God. I am better at connecting with God when I know him.
  • Keep a journal: I keep a journal where I record my joys and disappointments. This gives me a record of what is irritating me and what is propelling me to joy.
  • Be real: Work hard not to explain away or avoid disappointments. I want to experience the disappointment for what it is. The more I can recognize the disappointment, the more equipped I feel in connecting with God and asking him for transformation. By expressing my feelings toward the disappointment, I am able to better articulate the pain I feel and why I want God to bring change. Disappointment may be the most valid emotion when we confront the realities of the world. Avoiding it will not help us articulate how we need God’s transformation in our lives and our situations.
  • Ask for input: I am not as self-aware as I would like. Having people speak into my disappointments and realities, allows me to recognize if I am avoiding my problems and disappointments, or engaging them, which then propels me back into intercession.
  • Struggle with God: By entering into intercession, I find myself praying and struggling with God for wisdom. I like the picture of Jacob who wrestles until the Lord gives him a blessing. Our best intercession, and best engagement with the world, will come when we’re persevering and wrestling in need of direction.
  • Believe the word: When God gives us a word, we need to believe and act on that word. That word can be a word of hope in the midst of empirical data that suggests otherwise. Faith is to believe and act on that word.

EPILOGUE

Intercession is an important and necessary practice that will lead us closer to God’s heart and vision. Without the practice embedded in our lives, we will allow disappointment to have the final word and it will shape our decisions. With it, we will experience new life and inspiring vision to engage our calling.

Disappointment is an expected emotion in ministry. People will disappoint us and our ministry contexts may often seem fruitless and bleak. We have a choice to respond to disappointment by turning to God or by turning to hopelessness. Hopelessness will invite defeatism and death into our spiritual lives. But when we turn to intercede, we invite ourselves to be shaped by God.

Ultimately, our calling will be shaped by God or by the emotional and spiritual death in our lives. A calling that is not rooted in God will have little faith for transformation in our world.

Disappointments in my life brought despair, cynicism and death. My faith was shaken and vision for people was uninspiring. I believed less and less in a God that would bring transformation and almost left ministry as a vocation. But when I chose to turn to God in intercession and receive promises and words that are from God, I experienced a renewed sense of calling into a world full of despair. The road to death invites us to receive our calling from the world. The road to life invites us to receive our calling from God. Ultimately, only God’s voice will inspire a calling that is compelling and powerful that will believe in God’s transforming power in our world.

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Finance Friday 13: Unchecked Pursuits

Of course, there is great gain in godliness combined with contentment; for we brought nothing into the world, so that we can take nothing out of it; but if we have food and clothing, we will be content with these. But those who want to be rich fall into temptation and are trapped by many senseless and harmful desires that plunge people into ruin and destruction. For the love of money is a root of all kinds of evil, and in their eagerness to be rich some have wandered away from the faith and pierced themselves with many pains.

—1 Timothy 6.9-10

In his first letter to Timothy, Paul draws a contrast between those who are content with necessities and those who want to be rich. It is not ungodly to be rich. Many faithful men and women in the Bible were wealthy. But it does seem that the scriptures warn us in pursuing riches. Paul writes that “those who want to be rich fall into temptation and are trapped by many senseless and harmful desires that plunge people into ruin and destruction.” I’ve seen this to be true in my life.

After my freshman year in college, I landed a sweet internship with IBM. The job paid a lot of money (even in today’s standards) and the work load was light. As a young student, the money became the chief motivator in how I spent my energy. For two years, I enjoyed the benefits of this job, surrounding myself with new gadgets and a not-so-simple lifestyle.

When I had the choice to pursue a summer in missions, I turned it down primarily because I was not ready to pursue the things of God. Rather than be content with basic necessities, I was only content with lavishness.

The pursuit of money distracted me from the things of God. I began to question God’s goodness and was less interested in being a person of faith. My faith had suffered and I found myself struggling with loneliness, bitterness and various issues of lust.

Paul captured it well. I had “wandered away from the faith and pierced myself with many pains.” After two years, I left the job. Most people did not understand why I would quit such a “posh” job.. My faith could not handle the temptations that accompanied the job. I needed a realignment of my values.

This took place over ten years ago and continues to be an important character-building experience for me. I learned a lot about myself and about wealth. I learned that money is not necessarily the means to happiness, nor a solution to many problems. More money ruined my faith and compromised my convictions.

What I needed during those two years was better accountability and truth spoken into my life. I needed to be transparent in how I spent my money and my time and I needed people to ask me important questions that would make sure that I am not trapped by senseless and harmful desires.

Having said that, since we’ve been married, Rhoda and I have been open and transparent about our finances. I have shared my struggles and asked for wisdom in my accountability relationships, precisely because I know that the love of money is a root of all kinds of evil.

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Leadership Insight 21: Called

I heard a great quote over the weekend at an InterVarsity sponsored Leadership Conference. The speaker quoted Peter Drucker (one of the foremost experts on the study of leadership) as saying, “there may be ‘born leaders,’ but there surely are far too few to depend on them.” Drucker’s quote addresses the question that may comes up often: Are leaders born or made? Drucker seems to think that question as being irrelevant.

There is something freeing with what Drucker says. We do not need to disqualify ourselves from leadership because we don’t think we are ‘born leaders.’ Some people may have the ideal personality and gift types to bring leadership in important situations and organizations, but we will be shooting ourselves in the foot if we only look for those kinds of people to be leaders.

Development is the key to doing good leadership, not just identification of someone’s gifts or passions. If I spend more of my energy in identifying potential leaders and not developing them, then I risk of writing the eulogy to my ministry. The ministry that will last will be the one that not only identifies, but develops and trains the next generation of leaders.

And just as development is important to raising up younger leaders, it is important for my leadership as well. I need to continue to put myself in situations and settings that stretch my leadership and teach me new insights into being a better leader and a better leader developer.

There are plenty of books and resources on leadership, but the sheer volume of literature doesn’t necessarily reflect the reality on the ground. If I can be so bold as to say that my campus context is a microcosm of our world, we desperately need solid leaders who will lead people to the glory of God.

The call of leadership is not necessarily knowing that we have the gift of leadership. The call of leadership is to commit ourselves to the needs we see and to have a desire to address those needs.

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My Fifteen Minutes with Fame

Last night, I got a phone call from one of our core InterVarsity students and close friend Yemi (affectionately known as Sky). He is a board member of The National Association for the Advancement of Colored People (NAACP) and had been asked to speak at City Hall on the one year anniversary of the Michael Richards incident at the Laugh Factory, where the comedian dropped the N word in a derogative way toward Black patrons who did not care much for his jokes.

Sky asked me to accompany him for this historic moment. Councilman Bernard Parks invited Sky to speak in favor of a symbolic resolution calling for an end of the use of the N word.

Here is Sky in action:


And here’s me caught on TV walking to the press conference following the testimonies and the vote. That’s me in the red sweater.


Sky did a fantastic job, and though the event took way longer than it should have (our tax money at work), it was a joy to see Sky given such an incredible feat and (for both of us) to have an opportunity to rub shoulders with fame.I met Councilmembers Parks and Janice Hahn.I thanked Ms. Hahn for her work on the council and had a moment to chat with her about our ministry. She is a devout believer who had given a testimony at the Billy Graham Crusade in Pasadena a couple years ago.

I also had lunch with a few members of the NAACP, the attorney representing one of the victims in the Richards case, the young man she is representing, and Mrs. Parks (wife of Bernard Parks). Parks may not be my representative on the city council, but he does represent my church’s district. I shared with Mrs. Parks some of the ways that our church is trying to bring transformation to the community and got a contact of accessing some money from the city that would help us toward that end.

An irony of the day was seeing the uncanny resemblance of Council President Eric Garcetti to Nathan Petrolli of Heroes. If you know the show (I’m just familiar with Season 1), Petrelli is a politician on the show. They have similar looks and mannerisms.

Petrelli Garcetti


I was glad to join Sky for the day. He is a young, black, emerging leader. It’s been a joy to serve as a mentor in his life, and I foresee great influence and transformation through Sky. When we influence students, we don’t know the kind of power we will be influencing in the future.

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